When we were children most of us would at some time or another have either been bullied, or witnessed another child suffering at the hands of a bully.
As most children have access to the internet these days, those who wish to bully others have plenty of ways they can do this, adding to the humiliation of the person being bullied by reaching massive worldwide audiences.
It is tragic to hear of young people who have been so badly affected by what some other person has said about them that they have been driven to taking their own lives.
BULLIES OFTEN HATE THEMSELVES
The irony is that most bullies have low self-esteem. They often choose to bully others because it makes them feel more important when their bullying results in another person becoming afraid of them or being made to appear undesirable to others.
But even if the victim is aware this is why they are being bullied, it often does little to overcome their fears of being further targeted.
BULLIES USUALLY PICK ON THE MOST VULNERABLE
Bullies have a finely tuned radar for the weakest link. Those who appear shy or different in some way from the majority, or appear to have low self-esteem will become an easy target for a bully. But this is not always the case. Given that bullies usually have a hidden lack of confidence, they sometimes pick on someone who makes them feel jealous in some way. Perhaps they wish they had lovely long blonde hair like the girl who sits in front of them in the classroom. So they go out of their way to indicate to the world that her blonde hair is fake, or even worse – a wig that is hiding some horrendous scalp condition.
So how can a person who is a victim to bullying bring a stop to this and regain their confidence and self-esteem?
FLOWER ESSENCES CAN HELP
A flower essence is a vibrational remedy (see past articles and posts on flower essences) that can subtly bring positive emotional change if taken internally over a period of time.
Flower essences are created by soaking the blossoms of a flower in a bowl of spring water left in the sun for a period of time. The water takes on the energy and intelligence of the particular flower. The water is then bottled with some brandy to preserve it and this becomes the mother essence bottle. Later a few drops from this bottle is added to a small bottle of spring water and this becomes the dosage bottle. By placing a few drops under the tongue of a particular flower, over time negative emotions can be very effectively removed.
Dr Edward Bach formulated 38 different flower essences that he discovered would help to heal a wide variety of negative emotional states. He believed that all dis-ease could be cured by healing whatever negative emotions a patient was presenting. He focused on treating the negative emotion, even when a person came to him with symptoms of a disease. Miraculously their physical complaint would often clear up completely after simply treating whatever negative emotions they were also experiencing.
Most flower essence practitioners recommend no more than five flower essences in one dosage bottle at a time. The usual recommendation is to place four drops under the tongue at least three to four times a day until the negative condition is no longer present.
Some flower essences that may assist those suffering from being bullied are:
Mimulus: For fear of known things. This is particularly appropriate for the shy and timid person.
Larch: For low self-esteem and feeling inferior.
Crab Apple: For self hate, self consciousness and OCD
Star of Bethlehem: For trauma, shock, sorrow and grief
Sweet Chestnut: For anguish, despair and when feeling tearful
Walnut: For unwanted influences, feeling sensitive and finding it difficult to adapt or when feeling a need to break away.
Willow: For resentment, feeling a victim and blaming others.
Gentian: For feeling easily discouraged and having a negative outlook on life.
Elm: For feeling overwhelmed
By taking the relevant flower essences, a person will gradually rid themselves of the negative feelings and emotions they experienced as a result of the bullying. Once they become more confident, more courageous and their self-esteem improves, they are way less likely to attract attention from a bully. Even if they do find that the bullying is continuing they will be in a much stronger position to either ignore it, or to address the person bullying them in such a calm and confident way that the bullying will stop. After all most bullies would not be interested in continuing to do this when they are not getting the kind of response they would like to get from their perceived victim.
Check out ‘An Element of Fun’ a book for children aged 5 to 8 that addresses ego and self-esteem in a fun and entertaining way.
